This questionnaire focuses on eight dimensions of a healthy, well-connected marriage, namely partnership, support, trust, emotional intimacy, togetherness, warmth/affection, conflict resolution, and chemistry. It highlights those dimensions that are currently strengths in your relationship and those that may be work areas.
According to John Gottman, a bid for connection is an attempt to create connection with your partner. This short test helps you to assess your style of bidding.
This quiz, by Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the book The Five Love Languages, helps you to assess your personal love language(s).
Note: Please keep in mind that these questionnaires are for your personal use only. They are not meant to be diagnostic or to offer professional advice or guidance. If you have questions about the health of your relationship, please seek out the advice of a qualified professional.
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